How to Control Your Temper

It is normal for a person to become angry every once in a while. However, if you are finding yourself getting mad on a regular basis over fairly trivial matters, and/or that anger is becoming increasingly violent and disturbing to those around you, there is likely a problem.

You might need to see a therapist about this issue, but beforehand, here are some tips you can try to control your temper:

Step Back

If you find yourself in a heated situation and are not sure about what you might do or say next, step back. If that means removing yourself from the room, do so. You may worry that this makes you look bad, or even childish, but that is better than the possible repercussions that could result in a far worse situation.

Practice Relaxation Techniques

One of the reasons people getting very angry is because they are already wound up. If you feel yourself getting tense, excuse yourself and practice some relaxation techniques. These can be as simple as closing your eyes and taking some deep breaths for a couple minutes. This will help to take the edge off of your anger and allow you to re-approach the situation with a clearer head.

Employ Short Term Solutions

Is your car malfunctioning and driving you crazy? Unable to get it to the mechanic right away? Instead of remaining in that frustrating situation, call a taxi or ask a friend for a ride.  That won’t fix your car, but it will fix the current issue. You can deal with the problem later on when you are feeling calm.

If these don’t work for you, look into seeing a therapist or taking an anger management course. These will help you develop alternate techniques to deal with your frustration, while also identifying what is behind the anger.