During the course of their life, the average person will have several friendships that are extremely important to them. In fact, some people will hold their best friends in higher regard than their families or even spouses. It is not surprising then that when one such a friendship ends, it can be emotionally devastating.
Has a friendship that you hold in particularly high regard ended recently? Are you having trouble dealing with the emotional fallout? If so, these tips can help you to restore your balance:
Do you feel you are the same person you were five years ago? How about 10 years ago? 20 years? Through a combination of maturity and life experience, we change as we grow older. That applies to other people, too. There can be a number of reasons why friendships end, but some discontinue simply because the people involved are no longer the same as they were when it started.
Accept the outcome
Sometimes a friendship will end and one party will not accept that it is over. They will cling on to the hope that it can somehow be restored. This is emotionally dangerous and can make an unpleasant situation even worse. If your friendship has ended, and you are certain that there is no mending the fence, accept this fact and move on with your life.
When we are in emotional pain, it is common to bottle it up inside and just shut down. This causes it to linger and make life even more challenging. Try taking your emotional pain and putting it down on paper in a journal. This is a good way to get it out of your system and you can look back at it later on as a reminder of what you were going through if a similar situation ever arises.