Everyone gets angry once in a while, even people who usually have a Zen-like level of calm about them. But some constantly find themselves on edge and ready to lash out. That is not a good state to be in, and can take a toll on both physical and mental health.
The following steps won’t prevent you from ever losing your temper again, but can be a definite help in recognizing and controlling your anger before things get out of hand.
Some people believe that the best way to deal with a persistent person or problem is confrontation: put a stop to the issue right now. However, there is nothing wrong with instead practicing avoidance. If there is a certain situation or person that almost always causes your blood to boil, do your best to avoid them. That may be awkward or logistically difficult but is almost always worth the effort. If you find yourself caught in such a situation, just walk away. That may feel like a copout, but consider the alternative.
Relaxation techniques can be a huge assistance when it comes to controlling anger. One technique that is easy and possible to do anywhere is deep breathing. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and exhale slowly. Do this several times until you feel your muscles starting to relax.
Settle for a Short-Term Fix
When angry, you’re only thinking about the here and now, not the possible repercussions that could come result from the anger. When you feel yourself in such a situation and walking away is not an option, try settling for something that will reduce the magnitude of the issue. Even if this is only for the time being, it allows you to walk away and think about a better solution than simply blowing your top.
Here are some other thoughts on anger that can be quite helpful: