Angry Often? These Steps Can Help

Everyone gets angry once in a while, even people who usually have a Zen-like level of calm about them. But some constantly find themselves on edge and ready to lash out. That is not a good state to be in, and can take a toll on both physical and mental health.

The following steps won’t prevent you from ever losing your temper again, but can be a definite help in recognizing and controlling your anger before things get out of hand.


Some people believe that the best way to deal with a persistent person or problem is confrontation: put a stop to the issue right now. However, there is nothing wrong with instead practicing avoidance. If there is a certain situation or person that almost always causes your blood to boil, do your best to avoid them. That may be awkward or logistically difficult but is almost always worth the effort. If you find yourself caught in such a situation, just walk away. That may feel like a copout, but consider the alternative.


Relaxation techniques can be a huge assistance when it comes to controlling anger. One technique that is easy and possible to do anywhere is deep breathing. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and exhale slowly. Do this several times until you feel your muscles starting to relax.

Settle for a Short-Term Fix

When angry, you’re only thinking about the here and now, not the possible repercussions that could come result from the anger. When you feel yourself in such a situation and walking away is not an option, try settling for something that will reduce the magnitude of the issue. Even if this is only for the time being, it allows you to walk away and think about a better solution than simply blowing your top.

Here are some other thoughts on anger that can be quite helpful:

How to Control Your Temper

It is normal for a person to become angry every once in a while. However, if you are finding yourself getting mad on a regular basis over fairly trivial matters, and/or that anger is becoming increasingly violent and disturbing to those around you, there is likely a problem.

You might need to see a therapist about this issue, but beforehand, here are some tips you can try to control your temper:

Step Back

If you find yourself in a heated situation and are not sure about what you might do or say next, step back. If that means removing yourself from the room, do so. You may worry that this makes you look bad, or even childish, but that is better than the possible repercussions that could result in a far worse situation.

Practice Relaxation Techniques

One of the reasons people getting very angry is because they are already wound up. If you feel yourself getting tense, excuse yourself and practice some relaxation techniques. These can be as simple as closing your eyes and taking some deep breaths for a couple minutes. This will help to take the edge off of your anger and allow you to re-approach the situation with a clearer head.

Employ Short Term Solutions

Is your car malfunctioning and driving you crazy? Unable to get it to the mechanic right away? Instead of remaining in that frustrating situation, call a taxi or ask a friend for a ride.  That won’t fix your car, but it will fix the current issue. You can deal with the problem later on when you are feeling calm.

If these don’t work for you, look into seeing a therapist or taking an anger management course. These will help you develop alternate techniques to deal with your frustration, while also identifying what is behind the anger.